What To Do When You Don't Like Your Child's Friends

I did an interview a while back about what to do if you don’t like your child’s friends. You can find the article here: http://www.chicagotribune.com/lifestyles/parenting/sc-fam-dont-like-childs-friend-0911-story.html

The bottom line is, when you have a teenager, you will have to pick your battles wisely. The more you push your child into or away from something or someone, you will likely get equal or stronger pushback from them. The work of adolescence is about becoming your own person and part of that is trying on different identities. As the grown up, you may wonder who this person in your house is. Do your best to approach with curiosity instead of judgment. Ask honest questions and let your child know that you love them no matter what. That said, if they are engaging in dangerous behaviors, you will need to set clear boundaries. Nobody said it would be easy!

New Research: Treating Teen's Depression May Give Parents a Mental Health Boost

According to preliminary research presented at the American Psychological Association, when adolescents go through some form of mental health treatment, symptoms of depression go down in parents. The study, conducted by doctoral candidate Kelsey Howard at Northwestern University, looked at 325 American teenagers and their parents. 

Any parent knows that their child's mood can have an affect on them. Think about the last time your adolescent came home, slammed doors and told you how much they hate you. Did you have any feelings about that? Now we have research confirming that this is the case. 

According to Howard, "It's clear that kids affect parents." 

What's not yet clear in the research is why this happens. "It could be in how the family is interacting with each other: the kid is more pleasant to be around, the kid is making less negative statements, which can affect how the whole family thinks," stated Howard. 

Bottom line: we are all connected. Mental health treatment for one family member can affect other family members. 

For more information: https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2018/08/teens-depression-parents-mental-health/567308/